Proverbs ends with a poem about an amazing woman. It was written by a mom to her son, teaching him what to look for in a wife someday.

A Rare Treasure

Proverbs 31:10-11 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.

A wife with good character is worth more than jewels. She’s trustworthy, hardworking, and kind.

Beauty Isn’t Everything

Proverbs 31:30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

Looks and charm get a lot of attention, but they don’t last. What matters most is a woman who loves God.

God Looks at the Heart

1 Samuel 16:7 But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”

God cares more about what’s inside than outside. Young men should too. And the best way to find a godly wife someday is to become a godly man today.

The Takeaway

Look for a woman who loves God, not just one who looks good. Character lasts. And start becoming the kind of man a godly woman would want to marry.

Discuss and Dive Deeper

Talk about it:

  1. Fathers and sons, read Proverbs 31 together, taking turns by section.
  2. What are some things that make a woman beautiful to most guys?
  3. What does it mean for a woman to “fear the Lord”?
  4. Make a list of the things you will look for in a wife someday.
  5. Dads, what did you learn from Proverbs 31 about honoring your wife?
  6. What’s your favorite verse from this chapter? Explain.
  7. Close your time together in prayer.

See also:

Proverbs for Men and Boys (Men’s Series)