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If you're in relationships with human beings, they'll inevitably fail you at some point. Here’s what to do about it.

Key Points:

  • Making allowance for other people’s faults means entering relationships with the expectation that people aren’t perfect. Matthew 26:34
  • Making allowance for other people’s faults means choosing to be proactive about forgiveness. Matthew 18:21-22
  • Making allowance for other people’s faults is the natural response of someone who is forgiven by Jesus. Colossians 3:13

Quote This:

Colossians 3:13 Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.

See Also: Relationships, Forgiveness

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. What comes to mind when you think about someone’s faults? What’s the most recent offense against you? 
  3. What expectations do you typically have when you enter into a relationship with someone? Is it different for different kinds of relationships?
  4. Read Matthew 26:34. Why do you think Jesus was so calm when he predicted Peter’s betrayal? How would you have acted toward Peter if you were in that situation? 
  5. Share a time when you reacted to someone in unforgiveness. What would “proactive forgiveness” have looked like in that situation? Do you think you could do it next time? Explain.
  6. Read Colossians 3:13. Why is forgiveness the natural response of a mature Christian? Why do so few Christians actually do this in daily life? 
  7. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.