Talking Points:
- Modern culture depicts love as a feeling that comes and goes. Many couples use this unrealistic standard to measure the quality of love in their marriage.
- The Bible paints a different picture for marital love: Love is a choice, not just a feeling. Love is based on a promise and is represented by our marriage vows. Proverbs 20:25
- The ultimate analogy for love is how Christ loves his church. He gave up his life for his “bride” even though he didn’t feel like it. Ephesians 5:25-27
Discussion:
- Review the Couple’s Survey. Highlight any discrepancies or areas of concern. Revisit those problem areas as you move through each lesson in the series.
- Describe how you think our culture (through entertainment or popular opinion) views love and marriage. Explain. How might those views be fueling the divorce rate in our country?
- Make two lists: (1) good feelings you’ve felt in your relationship (2) bad feelings you’ve felt in your relationship. How have those feelings helped and hurt your relationship?
- Read Proverbs 20:25. Do you think most couples understand the commitment they’re making on their wedding day? Explain. Review the common vows you hear in a wedding. Why do we choose to say those things?
- Read Ephesians 5:25-27. What did Christ do to set his bride (the Church) apart? List some sacrifices you anticipate making once you’re married. Explain your list.
- Homework: Watch the 5 love languages to discover your love languages and come next session with some practical ways you will start speaking your partner’s love language.
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