100 Questions Before You Tie the Knot (Series)

In this series, you'll talk through 100 questions to help you determine if you should "tie the knot"!

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20 Fun Questions Before You Tie the Knot

Before you say “I do,” it’s worth slowing down and having some honest, light-hearted, and sometimes deep conversations with your future spouse. These 20 fun and engaging questions aren’t just for laughs—they’re designed to spark meaningful dialogue, uncover surprises, and help you start your marriage with clarity and connection.

Marriage isn’t just about shared Netflix accounts and matching towels. It’s about building a life together and living to honor and pursue God together, side by side.

Discussion:
  1. What’s your go-to comfort food on a rough day?
  2. If you could instantly master one hobby or skill, what would it be?
  3. What’s one childhood TV show you’d totally binge again?
  4. Who would play you in the movie of your life?
  5. What’s your “weirdest” habit that you think I should know about?
  6. If we had to live in another country for a year, where would you want to go?
  7. What’s your biggest irrational fear?
  8. Which board game brings out your competitive side?
  9. If you could choose a new first name, what would it be?
  10. What’s your “perfect” lazy day agenda?
  11. What’s a fictional couple you think we’re kind of like?
  12. Would you rather go camping in the woods or stay in a fancy hotel?
  13. What’s something totally random that makes you laugh every time?
  14. If money wasn’t a factor, what would be your dream job?
  15. How do you feel about pets? (Be honest.)
  16. What’s your most cringeworthy fashion phase from the past?
  17. Who’s your celebrity “just seems like a cool person” pick?
  18. What’s your favorite smell—and what smell do you absolutely hate?
  19. What’s something you hope we still do together when we’re 80?
  20. What’s one word that you hope always describes our marriage?

Proverbs 17:22 (NLT) – “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person’s strength.”

Healthy marriages need joy, laughter, and playfulness. So never stop asking good questions—and never stop having fun.

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20 Spiritual Questions Before You Tie the Knot

Marriage is more than a romantic connection—it’s a spiritual partnership. If you want a God-honoring marriage, it starts long before the wedding day. These 20 spiritual questions are designed to help engaged couples dig deeper into their faith, align their values, and lay a strong foundation for the journey ahead.

When couples pursue God together, they grow closer to each other. But spiritual unity doesn’t happen automatically. You have to ask the right questions, listen humbly, and commit to walking together in grace and truth.

2 Corinthians 6:14 says “Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?”

These questions will help you explore how faith shapes your priorities, how you’ll handle challenges, and how you’ll support one another in your walk with Christ. Don’t rush through them. Take your time, pray together, and invite God into the conversation.

Discussion:

Here are 20 spiritual questions every couple should ask before getting married:

  1. What does your personal relationship with God look like right now?

  2. How do you stay spiritually connected to God during busy or difficult seasons?

  3. What role will the Bible play in our marriage?

  4. How do you feel about praying together—daily, occasionally, or only in crisis?

  5. What does spiritual leadership look like in a marriage?

  6. Do you want to attend church together regularly? Why or why not?

  7. How important is it that we’re part of a Christian community or small group?

  8. What are your beliefs about baptism, communion, and other church practices?

  9. How do you handle spiritual doubt or disappointment with God?

  10. What are your views on tithing and generosity?

  11. How should we raise our future kids in the faith?

  12. Are there spiritual wounds or baggage from your past I should know about?

  13. How do we keep God at the center when we’re in conflict?

  14. How do you usually respond to correction or accountability from others?

  15. What’s your spiritual gift or ministry passion?

  16. How do you feel about serving together as a couple or do you see yourself in ministry? Would you be willing to move if God calls us somewhere else/to be a missionary?

  17. What Bible verse or passage has shaped your faith the most?

  18. What’s one spiritual discipline you want to grow in this year?

  19. Who do you look to as a spiritual role model?

  20. What’s your biggest hope for our spiritual life as a married couple?

Amos 3:3 (NLT) – “Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?”

If you want a marriage that honors God, start with unity of spirit. Don’t just dream about a godly home—build one together, starting now.

20 Family Questions Before You Tie the Knot

Every person brings a story into marriage—and much of that story is shaped by the family they came from. Whether your family background was healthy, dysfunctional, or somewhere in between, it has shaped your views on love, conflict, communication, and commitment.

These 20 “family of origin” questions will help you and your fiancé explore the unseen influences from your upbringing. They’re not meant to judge your past—they’re meant to help you understand it. And the more you understand each other’s family history, the better prepared you’ll be to build a new legacy together.

As you go through these questions, be honest and gracious. You might discover patterns worth repeating—and others you want to break. But remember: your future doesn’t have to be defined by your past.

Discussion:

Here are 20 essential family of origin questions to ask before getting married:

  1. How would you describe your parents’ marriage growing up?

  2. What were the unspoken “rules” in your household?

  3. How did your family handle conflict—calmly, with yelling, or not at all?

  4. Were emotions expressed freely in your home, or were they kept inside?

  5. How did your family celebrate holidays and milestones?

  6. What were your family’s views on gender roles in marriage?

  7. How did your parents or caregivers show love to you?

  8. Did your family talk openly about faith or avoid spiritual conversations?

  9. How did your family handle money—budgeting, giving, debt?

  10. What role did extended family play in your life?

  11. Were you encouraged to be independent or closely tied to the family?

  12. What childhood wound or memory still impacts you today?

  13. How did your family approach discipline—strict, permissive, balanced?

  14. Were apologies and forgiveness modeled in your home?

  15. How did your parents deal with stress or crisis?

  16. What did your family teach you—directly or indirectly—about sex?

  17. Did your family prioritize time together or often operate in separate lanes?

  18. What family traditions do you want to keep in your own marriage?

  19. What unhealthy patterns do you hope to break?

  20. How can I best support you as we build a new family together?

Ezekiel 18:2 (NLT) – “Why do you quote this proverb… ‘The parents have eaten sour grapes, but their children’s mouths pucker at the taste’? As surely as I live, says the Sovereign Lord, you will not quote this proverb anymore.”

God gives you the power to break unhealthy generational patterns. Your story can start fresh.

20 Financial Questions Before You Tie the Knot

Money is one of the top stressors in marriage—and one of the biggest sources of conflict for newlyweds. That’s why it’s crucial to talk about finances before you walk down the aisle. These 20 financial questions will help you and your fiancé get on the same page and build a plan that honors God and each other.

Talking about money may not feel romantic, but it’s one of the most loving things you can do before saying “I do.” These questions cover everything from budgeting to debt, spending habits to long-term goals. Don’t assume you’re on the same page—find out!

You don’t have to be wealthy to be wise with your finances. What matters most is transparency, teamwork, and a shared commitment to stewardship.

Discussion:

Here are 20 financial questions every couple should ask before marriage:

  1. What’s your current financial situation—income, debt, savings?

  2. Do you consider yourself a spender, a saver, or somewhere in between?

  3. How were finances handled in your family growing up?

  4. Do you believe in keeping separate accounts, joint accounts, or a mix?

  5. What are your short-term financial goals for the first year of marriage?

  6. How do you feel about using credit cards and taking on debt?

  7. What’s your comfort level with budgeting and tracking expenses?

  8. How much should we save each month—and who manages that?

  9. What are your thoughts on generosity and tithing?

  10. How do you feel about lending money to friends or family?

  11. What major purchases do you see coming in the next five years?

  12. How will we handle unexpected expenses or emergencies?

  13. Do you have student loans or other debts I should know about?

  14. What’s your ideal lifestyle—and does it align with your income?

  15. How should we navigate differences in income or spending habits?

  16. What’s your plan for retirement—and when should we start saving?

  17. How important is financial independence to you?

  18. Who will pay the bills and manage the monthly budget?

  19. What’s one money mistake you’ve made that taught you a lesson?

  20. How can we honor God with our finances as a couple?

Proverbs 21:5 (NLT) – “Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity, but hasty shortcuts lead to poverty.”

Money fights don’t start with numbers—they start with unspoken expectations. So speak up now, and set your future marriage on a path of financial unity.

20 Vulnerable Questions Before You Tie the Knot

Every couple has surface-level conversations—likes, dislikes, dreams, plans. But if you want a marriage that lasts, you have to go deeper. These 20 deep questions will take courage, honesty, and grace—but they’re the kind of conversations that can shape a legacy.

They’re not just about information. They’re about connection. Because in a healthy marriage, you’re not just building a home—you’re healing together, growing together, and learning to be fully known and still fully loved.

Discussion:

Here are 20 vulnerable questions to ask before marriage:

  1. What’s the one thing about yourself you’re most afraid I’ll reject if I knew it fully?

  2. What failure, sin, or regret from your past still weighs on you—and how can I support you in it?

  3. What wound from childhood still shapes how you respond to conflict or affection?

  4. What’s a generational pattern in your family you never want to repeat in our marriage?

  5. What lie about yourself do you sometimes believe—even though you know it’s not true?

  6. When you feel anxious, unseen, or insecure, what do you need most from me?

  7. What was your first heartbreak, and what did it teach you about love or trust?

  8. How has your view of God changed over time—especially during seasons of pain or doubt?

  9. What’s one part of your story you rarely talk about—but wish someone would ask about?

  10. How do you usually react when you’re emotionally overwhelmed—and what helps calm you?

  11. When you mess up, are you more likely to shut down, justify, or spiral? What helps you recover?

  12. What does emotional safety mean to you—and what builds or breaks it?

  13. What spiritual discipline do you struggle with most—and how can I encourage you in it?

  14. How do you want our marriage to reflect the gospel to others?

  15. What kind of family culture do you want us to create—and how is that different from the one you came from?

  16. What area of your life do you still need healing—and how can I pray with you in that?

  17. Have you ever struggled with a specifc sexual sin (porn, masturbation, sex outside of marriage etc)? Have you found freedom from it?

  18. What’s a moment in your past when you felt deeply connected to God?

  19. What dream or calling has God placed on your heart that you’ve been afraid to fully pursue?

  20. What do you want Jesus to say about our marriage when we stand before Him someday?

Philippians 3:13-14 (NLT) – “I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.”

Your past doesn’t disqualify your future—but ignoring it might. Let grace do its work. Start your marriage with eyes wide open and hearts fully surrendered.

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