We all have baggage of some kind, so learning to talk about it is important in a healthy relationship.
Talking Points:
- Everyone has a past. It’s important to acknowledge it and prayerfully consider what you need to share with the person you are dating now.
- Talk early. Getting the walls down and starting off a relationship with honesty is key if it’s going to move any further.
- It’s important to start the cycle of vulnerability as soon as possible. Building trust and acceptance from the beginning will make being honest later on that much easier. 1 John 1:5-7
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- What has your experience been in the past with sharing your dating history with a significant other? What went well? What totally bombed?
- How much have you shared in your current relationship about your past? How do you determine what is sharable and what isn’t?
- What fears do you have about being honest with your significant other?
- In your own words, why is it important to share your history with someone you love?
- Read 1 John 1:5-7. What do you think this passage is saying? How does being honest and vulnerable develop more trust in your relationship?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
