Best Practices For Growing Christians

In this series, learn about the basic Christian practices all followers of Jesus should be doing.

Dealing with Doubt

Whether you are a Christian or an atheist, if you are alive, you will struggle at times with doubt.

Talking Points:

  • Given the available evidence, we all have a choice to accept or reject that evidence. So many people who struggle with doubt are passively waiting for something dramatic to happen what will automatically remove all doubts.
  • Many of the great people of faith in the Bible and in Christian history have struggled with periods of doubt.
    • Sarah Genesis 18:12
    • Elijah 1 Kings 19:1-4
    • Peter Matthew 26:74
    • Thomas John 20:25
    • John the Baptist Luke 7:20
  • Often our doubts come into focus the most during difficult times. But one reason for our doubts is that we have wrong expectations of God. If you think following God is supposed to be a life without trials, then you will naturally doubt the goodness and power of God when trials inevitably come.
  • Doubt is overcome with truth. The Bible tells us that we do battle by taking every thought captive. So whether our thoughts come from Satan or from difficult circumstances, the battle of doubt takes place in our minds. 2 Corinthians 10:5
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. What is it about people that makes it harder or easier to trust them?
  3. What is it about God that makes it harder or easier to trust him?
  4. Some people have a harder time with doubt than others. Discuss some things that may have happened in your childhood that might make it hard to trust.
  5. What circumstances in your life have stirred up the greatest doubts? Explain.
  6. Read Luke 7:18-23. Why do you think John the Baptist started to doubt? How did Jesus respond?
  7. Read Matthew 4:1-11. How did Satan try to raise doubts with Jesus? How did Jesus respond?
  8. Read Ephesians 6:13-18. How does faith function as a shield against Satan’s mental attacks?
  9. Read Mark 9:17-27. How does the boy’s father help us understand how to handle our doubts?
  10. Read 2 Corinthians 10:5. What thoughts do you need to take captive? What verses do you need to memorize to replace those doubts?
  11. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?

 

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Feeding on God’s Word | Basic Practices for Growing Christians #2

To grow strong in faith, we all need the spiritual nourishment found in reading the Bible.

Talking Points:

  • The pathway to success in life is to meditate on and observe God’s word. The Bible is God’s recipe for life. God has revealed in the Bible how he created the world to work. Joshua 1:8, Psalm 1:1-3
  • While in training, an athlete will eat the right things in the right proportions, not to lose weight, but to achieve peak fitness. In the same way, the Bible nourishes and empowers us so that we can live life to the fullest. Psalm 119:105
  • As the Bible comes to inform our perspective on every matter and becomes a constant part of our decision-making process, our sinful nature and lower desires are not allowed to lead our life.
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. What is the longest time you have gone without food? How did that affect you physically?
  3. Tell us about your first Bible. When and how did you get it? What was it like? Do you still have it?
  4. Think of the last time you read your Bible. What did you read? What did you learn? Was there something you put into practice?
  5. Read Psalm 1:1-3. Discuss the promised benefits that come from knowing and applying God’s word to your life.
  6. Read Joshua 1:8. What does it mean to meditate on God’s word? How can you incorporate this practice into your life?
  7. Refer again to Joshua 1:8. Why is it important to apply, not just learn, what’s in the Bible? What might this look like in a practical issue in your life?
  8. Read James 1:21-25. What will the Bible accomplish in our lives? What is our role?
  9. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?

 

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Communicating with God

Prayer allows us to experience a relationship with the living God.

Talking Points:

  • We need time and energy to build into any relationship, and it’s no different in our relationship with God. We must discipline ourselves to engage in spiritual practices like prayer, fasting, worship, and Bible study. There are no shortcuts to this. Only heartfelt commitment, time, and energy will do. Revelation 3:20
  • The Lord’s Prayer gives us a template for how to pray: Matthew 6:9-13
    • Praise – Tell God “Thank you” for his blessings
    • Yield – Tell God you want his will not yours
    • Asking – Present requests and trust the answers
    • Seek Forgiveness – Confess your sins to God
    • Forgive others – Have a heart to make peace in your relationships
    • Ask for Protection – Ask God to protect you, your family, and others
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Read Revelation 3:20. Why is it important to not merely know, but to truly believe, that God desires relationship with us? How would things be different if we knew God didn’t want to be in relationship with us?
  3. “Commitment + Time + Energy = Relationship.” What would your most important relationships look like if you subtracted “commitment” from this equation? What about “time?” What about “energy?”
  4. What does your relationship with God look like when you subtract commitment, time, or energy from the equation?
  5. What does your prayer life look like right now? What are some ways it has improved? What are some ways it could improve more?
  6. Pastor Tom talked about the difference between “positional” forgiveness and “relational” forgiveness. Explain the difference between these two types of forgiveness and why they are important for the Christian life.
  7. Read Matthew 6:9-13. Which of the six “steps” of the pattern from the Lord’s Prayer are most important to you? Which steps do you struggle with? Why?
  8. Take a quick inventory of you spend your time, energy, and material resources. Does this inventory reflect a true desire to grow closer to God? Why or why not? What can or should you do differently to better pursue your relationship with God?
  9. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?

 

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Understanding the Church

The church plays a vital role in every Christian’s growth to maturity.

Talking Points:

  • Many Christians minimize the importance of the church. But as you read the New Testament, it is impossible to separate our vertical commitment to God from a horizontal commitment to body of Christ. Acts 2:42
  • Love is essential in any kind of community, but especially so in the church. The church is a diverse body encompassing people with many different gifts and personalities. 1 Corinthians 12:12-27
  • Ultimately the unity of the church is toward a common goal. The harmony of God’s people is motivated by our calling to advance the good news of salvation. Jesus called us to make disciples, and this requires us to work together. Matthew 28:18-20
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. How has your understanding of the church changed over time?
  3. What are some reasons Christians distance themselves from the church? Are these reasons valid? Why or why not?
  4. Read 1 Corinthians 12:12-13. How is the church like a living body? How do people become members of that body?
  5. Read 1 Corinthians 12:14-21. How does this passage describe the relationship between the parts of the body? How does this affect your attitude toward others in the church?
  6. Read Philippians 2:1-5. How does unity happen? Give some examples of when you have seen the qualities in this passage put into practice.
  7. Read Titus 3:10. What does it mean for people to cause divisions in the church? Can you give an example? Why is the warning against this so strong?
  8. Read Acts 2:42 and discuss the different things the early church did when they met together. How much does your church reflect that picture? Explain.
  9. Read Matthew 28:18-20. Why do you think Jesus gave us this mission? Who in your life needs to hear about Jesus?
  10. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?

 

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Understanding Baptism

Baptism is an important step for every Christian because it declares outwardly the inward reality of our salvation.

Talking Points:

  • An ordinance is “an outward rite instituted by Christ to be administered in the church as a visible sign of the saving truth of the Christian faith.” Two ordinances – baptism and communion – were initiated by Jesus as physical ways to remind us of spiritual realities.
  • Every Christian should consider baptism, not to conform outwardly to some religious regulation, but out of a heart’s desire to obey Jesus. It is a natural outflow of a new relationship with Christ. Matthew 28:18-19
  • Baptism is a public declaration that a person has identified with Jesus and his people. It is like putting up a sign that says “Under New Management”. Jesus commonly called people to a new life, but this involves laying down our old life. Mark 8:35, Colossians 2:12
  • Baptism is not a means of salvation. It is for those who have already obtained salvation – by faith. It is an outward sign of an inner reality, a way of telling the world about the salvation we have received. Ephesians 2:8-9, 1 John 1:9
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Read Matthew 28:18-20. Why is baptism an integral part of making disciples?.
  3. Read Colossians 2:12. What does this say about the the symbolism of baptism?
  4. Different churches baptize in different ways. Why is immersion the best way to symbolize the meaning of baptism?
  5. If a person was baptized as a small child, would you counsel them to be baptized again as an adult? Why or why not?
  6. Read Ephesians 2:8-9 and 1 John 1:9. What do we have to do to be saved? Why can’t we boast about what we’ve done?
  7. Have you been baptized since becoming a Christian? If not, why not?
  8. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?

 

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Understanding Communion

The ritual of communion is an important way for Christians to express intimacy with Jesus.

Talking Points:

  • People use different titles for this ordinance. It may be called the Lord’s Supper, the Eucharist, or Communion. The title “communion” speaks of close fellowship and intimacy.
  • Jesus instituted communion on the occasion of the Jewish Passover festival. The significance of Passover to the Jews is now reflected in the ordinance of communion. Communion reminds us how much Jesus loves us, what he did to show that love, and how much he desires ongoing intimacy with us. Matthew 26:26-28
  • Communion is a time of introspection. We examine ourselves to remove anything that might hinder the intimacy we can have with Jesus. Thus the communion table is an opportunity to experience God’s grace and to get back into fellowship with him whenever we have strayed. 1 Corinthians 11:28
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Read Matthew 26:18-30. What do the bread and cup represent?
  3. Read 1 Corinthians 11:23-25. Why do you think the act of “remembrance” is so emphasized?
  4. Why do you think we are told to remember Jesus using the symbol of bread and juice, as opposed to building a statue?
  5. Read 1 Corinthians 11:26. How do we “announce the Lord’s death” by observing communion?
  6. Read 1 Corinthians 11:27-28. Why do you think it is important to examine yourself before taking communion?
  7. Explain how baptism relates to communion. Do you think a person should be baptized before taking communion? Why or why not?
  8. Read Acts 2:42-27. How important would you say communion (the Lord’s Supper) was in the early church? Explain.
  9. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?

 

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Fasting | Basic Practices for Growing Christians

Fasting is a biblical practice that isn’t commonly observed in the modern church, but which has great benefits for Christian growth.

Talking Points:

  • Fasting is a biblical practice that involves voluntarily depriving ourselves of food or water (or some other good gift from God) in order to focus solely on God. Matthew 9:14-15
  • Biblical characters often fasting during times of crisis, to express dependence on God and to ask God to intervene to meet their need. But fasting is not just for times of crisis and need. It can be done in times of blessing to stay humble and regain an eternal perspective. 2 Samuel 7:6, Acts 14:23
  • When fasting, temper your expectations of what God will do. It’s easy to think that because you are praying and fasting, God has to do whatever you want or need – because you are so focused and serious. But it’s really about focusing on God, not on what you expect him to do.
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Read Matthew 9:14-15. Have you ever tried fasting? Why did you do it? What happened?
  3. Read 2 Samuel 12:15-22. Explain David’s personal crisis. In this passage, why did David engage in fasting? Why did he end his fast?
  4. Read Joel 2:12-15. Why did the prophet call the people to fast? With what attitudes were they to approach fasting, and why?
  5. Read Daniel 9:3-5. Why did Daniel fast? What did his fasting reflect about his attitude?
  6. Read Ezra 8:21-23. Why did Ezra proclaim a fast?
  7. When would fasting be appropriate for an entire group to practice together (as in Ezra or Joel), as opposed to what isolated individuals might do?
  8. Read Acts 13:1-3. What role did fasting play in this situation?
  9. Read Matthew 6:16-18. What are some key points Jesus makes about fasting?
  10. Of all the reasons for fasting, which one applies most to you right now?
  11. What sensible precautions should a person take before engaging in a fast for the first time?
  12. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?

 

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Giving | Basics Practices for Growing Christians

Financial giving is an important part of a relationship between a believer and God, but there are many misconceptions about what giving is and what it means.

Talking Points:

  • Money has such a large pull on our hearts, what we do with our money reflects whom or what we love. So giving is about a relationship – with either God or money. Matthew 6:24
  • In human relationships, we’re willing to sacrifice to show others how much they mean to us. The same is true of giving to God. If it hurts a bit to give financially, that causes us to evaluate our priorities.
  • We don’t give God our leftovers. When we give to God first, before taking care of ourselves, we are trusting in him to fulfill the promise that he will give us plenty to meet our needs. Proverbs 3:9-10
  • Each of us has the privilege of deciding for ourselves how much to give. God doesn’t want us to give begrudgingly or under pressure. But a bad attitude is not a reason to stop giving. God can change your attitude if you are willing. 2 Corinthians 9:7
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Describe some ways God has provided for you materially.
  3. Why is giving financially to God so difficult for many Christians to embrace?
  4. Read Matthew 6:24. What do our financial choices say about our relationship with God?
  5. Read Philippians 4:14-19. What was Paul’s attitude toward the gift this church sent to support him?
  6. What evidence do you see in this passage that giving is more than just an economic transaction?
  7. Read 1 Corinthians 16:2. How does this help us decide how to give? What other factors should shape your decision about how much to give and where to give it?
  8. If giving is an act of trusting God, should a person give to God first before paying for essentials like food or utilities? Explain.
  9. Read 2 Corinthians 9:6-7. What factors make you cheerful about giving? What would you advise a person to do if they aren’t cheerful about giving?
  10. Do you agree or disagree that the local church should come first in your basic giving commitments?
  11. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?

 

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Sharing Our Faith | Basic Practices for Growing Christians

We have every reason to be confident in telling others about our faith in Jesus.

Talking Points:

  • You don’t have to be a theologian to share what Jesus has done in your life. Sharing your faith is just being excited about your relationship with God through Jesus Christ. 1 Peter 3:15-16
  • The Holy Spirit gives us words we would not have come up with ourselves. The Spirit takes our words and brings them home to the hearer. He can even use foolish things we say to convict people of the truth. Acts 1:8
  • Jesus commanded us to be his witnesses. But hopefully we are all motivated not just by obedience, but by love. Our whole goal in life is to love God and to love others. Matthew 22:37-40, Matthew 28:19-20
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Who initially told you about Jesus? How did they do it?
  3. What fears do you have about sharing your faith with others?
  4. Read 1 Peter 3:15-16. How does preparation help to minimize fear? How can you prepare yourself to be ready to give an answer?
  5. Why is our attitude toward others so important in sharing our faith?
  6. Read Acts 1:8. What does it mean to be a witness of Jesus? What is the Holy Spirit’s role in our witness?
  7. Read Matthew 28:18-20. What does it mean to make a disciple? How does Jesus’ authority provide confidence for doing that?
  8. Explain how sharing your faith is an act of love for others.
  9. What is the role of prayer in telling others about Jesus?
  10. What is the relationship between how you live and treat people and verbally sharing your faith?
  11. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?

 

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God’s Guidance System | Basic Practices for Growing Christians

God’s will is always for our best, and he guides us in life’s decisions as we trust in him.

Talking Points:

  • We don’t always know or admit that we’re going in the wrong direction. God’s path doesn’t always feel straight, but God knows where he is leading us. So if we’re smart we will trust God’s word instead of our own feelings. Proverbs 3:5-6
  • A farmer uses a yoke to steer animals. As such, a yoke speaks of submission. We have to be willing to be steered by God. Matthew 11:28-30
  • The Bible is from God. It contains the wisdom God has given to guide our lives, and it covers a majority of the big issues that will arise in daily life. If a decision goes against God’s word, it cannot be God’s will. 2 Timothy 3:16-17
  • The Bible tells us that the Holy Spirit moves us to follow God’s will for our lives. Our job is to listen to those promptings. Ezekiel 36:27
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. What methods or principles do you usually use to make a decision? Give an example.
  3. Read Proverbs 3:5-6. What does it mean to trust God? How have you seen God “make your paths straight”?
  4. Why is important to be willing to follow God’s will, no matter where it leads?
  5. Read 2 Timothy 3:16-17. Why must we give the Bible the final say about what is or isn’t God’s will?
  6. Read Ezekiel 36:27. Have you experienced the subjective, inner leading of the Holy Spirit? What happened?
  7. Read 1 John 4:1. Why must we be cautious in interpreting inner feelings?
  8. Read Proverbs 12:15. Give an example of how good counsel helped you make the right decision.
  9. How might God use circumstances to steer us into his will? Why must we be cautious in interpreting circumstances?
  10. Read Psalm 32:8-9. What promise does God make? What does it mean to “not be like a senseless horse or mule?”
  11. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?

 

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