A common character flaw is failing to own your own mistakes. Next time you're temped to point a finger, try the four A's instead.
Talking Points:
- Admit: Look in the mirror and be honest about your mistake. Own your part, and leave it to others to own theirs. Proverbs 28:13, James 5:16
- Apologize: Say “sorry” to anyone affected by your mistake. And avoid the temptation to fish for an apology. Matthew 5:23-24
- Accept: Accept the consequences for your actions. Own the punishment just like you owned the mistake.
- Adapt: Take ownership of the future “you”. Make an honest effort to learn from your mistake and change your behavior. Hebrews 12:1
Discussion Questions:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Share about a time you were in a conflict with someone and they refused to admit any fault. How did that make you feel? What was the end result of that situation?
- Read Proverbs 28:13 and James 5:16. How does admitting our mistakes help us? How does it help others? Why is it hard to admit fault?
- What does a genuine apology look like to you? How has a genuine apology affected your relationship with someone? Share a time you apologized to someone. Why are the words, “I’m sorry” so powerful?
- Read Matthew 5:23-24. What does Jesus say we should do when we discover that we’ve wronged someone?
- Have you ever had to own a mistake and then also suffer the consequences for it? Explain. Why is it important to not play the victim in that situation?
- Read Hebrews 12:1. How have you learned from some of you past mistakes? What does this verse say we should do with our mistakes?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
