There is hope for you if you’re married to a sex addict. As with any struggle, it starts with honesty, ownership and solutions.
Talking Points:
- Confront your spouse. Secrets keep us sick, so not being honest about it is only perpetuating the problem. Confrontation is uncomfortable, but it’s the best way to reach healing.
- Set boundaries. It’s okay to take a time out and process things apart from each other. These boundaries will look different for everyone, but find space in whatever way you feel you need it. 1 John 1:6-7
- Find a support system. Seeking out counselors, recovery groups, and mentors for both of you is a key step in finding healing in your marriage.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Share how you’ve tried to confront your spouse in the past regarding his addiction. What usually breaks down in the conversation? Do you ever see positive responses? Explain.
- How can you confront your spouse in the least combative way? What are some behaviors you would need to avoid in order to keep the conversation productive?
- What are some of the boundaries you need to put in place to feel safe and to communicate that there is a problem to your spouse? What will be the hardest part of holding to those boundaries?
- Read 1 John 1:6-7. What does this passage say about darkness and fellowship with God and others? How can talking about these issues in honest ways benefit you and your marriage?
- What resources are available to you and your spouse to help with the issues surrounding sex addiction?
- What are some of the issues you personally need to deal with in counseling or with a mentor?
- If your spouse is still unwilling to acknowledge their issue, what do you do to protect yourself?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
