- Every couple brings a “rulebook” into marriage—shaped by family, past relationships, and unspoken expectations. To experience healthy intimacy, that rulebook needs to be rewritten with honesty and God’s truth.
- Body image affects sexual confidence. When couples feel emotionally safe, they’re more likely to be honest about insecurities and grow closer in every area of intimacy.
- Great sex starts outside the bedroom. Speaking each other’s love language and serving one another daily creates the trust and emotional connection that fuels physical intimacy.
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Read the talking points above as a couple or group, including the scripture references. What stands out to you, and what does it reveal about the importance of rewriting your “rulebook” for sex?
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How have your personal experiences—family upbringing, past relationships, or cultural influences—shaped your current expectations around sex and intimacy?
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In what ways does body image affect your ability to be vulnerable and connected with your spouse? What would it look like to talk about that openly and support each other in this area?
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What are some ways you can better speak your spouse’s love language outside the bedroom? How might that impact the emotional and physical closeness in your marriage?
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Read 1 Corinthians 7:3-5. Put these verses in your own words. How does this passage challenge you on your attitude about intimacy? How is withholding sex like cheating them?
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What are some steps you can take to make sex a more regular experience in your marriage?
Adapted from the book Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage by Kevin Leman.