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Join Bryan and Tracy for a special YouTube live event every Thursday night at 7 pm mountain time (9 pm eastern). To comment during the livestream, view in YouTube.

NOTE: This event now airs on our FlexTalk channel so you can share it with couples who want the help without the explicit Bible references. Find it at www.flextalk.org/date-night

This Week’s Topic

Brain Chemistry and the 4 Love Types

Dr. Helen Fisher, an anthropologist, has studied human love through a scientific framework. She has identified four love types based on the dominance of certain brain chemicals.

Talking Points:

  • Explorers are dominant in dopamine (think “spontaneity”). They are motivated and goal-oriented, often seeking a playmate in life. 
  • Builders are dominant in serotonin (think “stability”). They are planners and like to schedule things ahead of time. 
  • Directors are dominant in testosterone (think “focus”). They value logic and are not easily swayed by emotion. 
  • Negotiators are dominant in estrogen (think “sensitivity”). They have a vivid imagination and tend to daydream, often seeking a soul mate in life. 
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Do you believe in love at first sight or soul mates? Why or why not?
  3. Read Genesis 2:24 and Ephesians 5:25-30. How do these verses speak to love, commitment and how you should view the differences between you and your spouse?
  4. Which love type do you most identify with and why? Take the test.
  5. Which love type would you say describes your partner? What characteristics of your partner makes your love match strong and healthy? What areas are challenging?
  6. Read Psalm 139:13-17. God took great care in creating your spouse. How can discovering your differences help to deepen your love and appreciation for them?
  7. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?