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Affairs can happen in any relationship, even to couples who seem to have it all together. Safeguard your marriage from some of the lies that lead to cheating.

Key Points:

  • Around 41% of married people admit to having an emotional or physical affairs at some point in their marriage. 
  • First, they probably lack a fear of God. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom (Proverbs 9:10). Fearing God will often keep you from making bad choices.
  • Second, they assume someone else will make them happy. The problem is that a spouse does not make us happy and fulfilled; this is between each of us and God.
  • Third, they compare their spouse’s worst with someone else’s best. They don’t see the other person’s faults and failures, just the idealized version they want to see. As the old saying goes, “The grass always looks greener from the other side.”
  • Fourth, they dont cut off “innocent” friendships. The more we entertain the thought of being with this other person, the more connected we feel to them, and the more likely we are to do something about it.
  • Fifth, they don’t have accountability (Proverbs 18:1). Many affairs could be prevented by early detection via godly accountability. Christian friends, mentors, and others who you invite to keep you accountable can detect when something is up, and they can help you make the tough choices you need to make to preserve your marraige and yourself.

Quote This:

Hebrews 13:4 Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.

See Also: Marriage, Divorce

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Do you know someone who’s had an affair? What happened?
  3. Read Proverbs 9:10. What do you think it means to fear the Lord? How can fearing God give us the wisdom to make right choices in our marriages?
  4. Do you think it’s true that people who have affairs are seeking happiness in the wrong place? Explain.
  5. How can unhappy people address the real sources of their unhappiness so they don’t drag them into their marriages? 
  6. How can we combat the tendency to compare our spouses’ worst with others’ best? Give some examples.
  7. What are some ways people fail to cut off “innocent” friendships? What steps should we take to cut off these types of relationships?
  8. How can accountability protect us from cheating?
  9. Who are some people in your life that can help keep you and your spouse accountable and faithful to your marriage?
  10. What are some ways we can not only keep from cheating but truly thrive in marriage?
  11. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.