Takers are people who make life all about them and who become increasingly self-absorbed, often without even realizing it.
Talking Points:
- If you are a taker, as you grow older you believe that everything should be handed to you. You often wonder why didn’t I get this? Or why didn’t you do that for me? You feel you deserve everything and if you don’t receive what you are looking for then you view yourself as a victim. Being a taker leads to a victim mentality.
- Takers have their own version of reality. Maybe a friend has tried to speak to you about acting like a victim. The problem is you have weaved such a web of lies in your own mind that you can’t see what others are trying to show you.
- When something is toxic, that means it’s poisonous. Being a taker is just that, it’s poison. This toxic material that you have become will either infect people or repel them.
- Takers never make an impact on other people. They instead look for other people to make an impact on them.
- The longer you spend in your life as a taker, the more you just push away true maturity. You will never have the opportunity to reach your potential in any area of your life. Don’t be a taker! Instead, learn to be a giver.
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Share about a time you have worked with a taker in your life.
- What are some of the traits of a giver that stand out to you?
- Read Mark 10:45. Was Jesus a giver or a taker? Explain.
- Discuss ways to talk to your loved ones about the behaviors of a taker. Read Galatians 5:13 for help.
- Share about your own tendencies to be a taker. What are some areas in life where you tend to be a taker?
- What can you do in your own life to grow as a giver daily?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
