Our culture is losing the art of friendship, and people are more isolated than ever before. Today we talk about “Philia” - a love that fills the gap between agape and eros.
Talking Points:
- Philia is an affection toward others that grows beyond a good feeling to become a mutual commitment. John 11:1-3, 35-36
- Christians are marked by a love for each other rooted in our shared identity and experience in Christ. This love transcends anything we have in common with anyone else. 1 Thessalonians 4:9-10, Romans 12:10
- Philia is the basis for a deep, lasting connection that we share with our closest friends. These are the friends we need to help us grow in life and faith. 1 Samuel 18:1-3, Proverbs 17:17; 27:6; 27:17
Discussion:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Who is someone you have to love (agape)? Who is someone you want to love (philia)?
- Read John 11:1-3 and 35-36. How did Jesus demonstrate philia love in this story?
- Read 1 Thessalonians 4:9-10. Why was it easier for the early church to be a “band of brothers”? What would it take for us to get back to that today?
- Read 1 Samuel 18:1-3. Who are two or three of your “soul” friends? How have they helped you to grow closer to Jesus?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
