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If you've been betrayed it can be hard to imagine that there is any hope for that relationship moving forward.
Key Points:
- Here are 5 lessons that will help us start to rebuild trust with people that have hurt us deeply:
- Trust takes time. When trust is broken, it is a long road back. There is no shortcut when it comes to rebuilding trust, it takes patience and consistency.
- We must accept the risk of getting hurt again. This is one of the hardest truths to face, but the reality is trusting again is making yourself vulnerable to a repeat offense. You have to determine whether you value that person enough to put yourself out there again.
- People must be tested before they are trusted. You need to look for signs of change in the people who have hurt you. Look for remorse and repentance.
- Don’t let past hurts hinder you from future blessings. It’s easy to put a wall up if you have been hurt, but that could be keeping you from giving your heart to someone great.
- When someone has earned your trust, give them your full trust. Once someone has proven to you that they have changed, don’t keep them locked up for the rest of their lives. There comes a point where the best thing to do is move forward and don’t look back.
Quote This:
Trust is like an eraser, it gets shorter with each mistake.
Talk About It
- What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Describe a time someone broke your trust. Would you say you gave them trust when they hadn’t earned it yet? Explain.
- Which one of the 5 lessons struck you the most. Why?
- What are some signs that someone has repented and is ready to be trusted again?
- Why is it important to not punish others for the mistakes of the one person who hurt you?
- Read Colossians 3:12-13. What does this passage tell us to do? How have you been holding past mistakes over someone’s head even though they’ve worked hard to earn your trust back? How would you feel if someone did that to you?
- How can you apply these lessons to a situation in your life right now?
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
