When we get angry we just want to make people pay for their offense. The radical kingdom ethic of Jesus calls us to reconciliation.

Talking Points:

  • Murder is just the tip of the iceberg for anger – but there’s more that lurks beneath the surface. From simple name-calling to cursing someone, anger can come out in all kinds of ways – and it’s usually destructive. Matthew 5:21-22
  • The key to victory over anger is to see yourself as the offender, not the offended. This is one of Christ’s radical principles – to look first at things from another person’s perspective. That’s how you overcome anger, or any other self-serving emotion. Matthew 5:23-25
  • The way of Jesus goes beyond anger to reconciliation – otherwise you’ll be the one paying the price. Jesus calls it being “subject to judgment” – whether on earth or in heaven. Matthew 5:22, Matthew 6:14-15
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Share the last time you lashed out in anger. How did your anger get you in trouble?
  3. Read Matthew 5:21-22. What are some of the “unseen/unspoken” things you think in your heart and mind when you’re angry? How are those things toxic and dangerous?
  4. Read Matthew 5:23-24. Why is it a radical idea to first think of yourself as the “offender”? How can considering other’s perspectives help you to control your anger?
  5. Read Matthew 6:14-15 and Colossians 3:12-13. What does reconciliation look like practically? Why is forgiveness necessary for true reconciliation?
  6. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
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