Titus 3:2 They must not slander anyone and must avoid quarreling. Instead, they should be gentle and show true humility to everyone.
These are some of the last words of advice Paul had for Titus. The people in Crete needed to stop being jerks to one another. They needed to be gentle.
Gentle means being kind and tender.
Picture people like an egg. What happens if you grab an egg and squeeze it as hard as you can? Right! It breaks and yolk gets all over your hands. We have to be gentle with an egg. We need to be gentle with people. Now, we don’t mean that if you squeeze or hit someone they’ll break. We mean be gentle with their feelings. Mean words can hurt and “break” their feelings. The people in Crete weren’t gentle and they weren’t humble.
Humble means you don’t think of yourself better than others.
The Cretans were not humble. They were a bunch of “know it all” people who thought their way was the right way. But, Titus was telling them that they needed to be humble. They needed to see that they weren’t so special and that their way wasn’t the right way. We need to be humble in our relationships, too. We shouldn’t make people feel like their feelings don’t matter and that we’re better than them.
We should be kind to others because God has been kind to us.
God hasn’t been a jerk toward us so we shouldn’t be a jerk toward others. Titus needed to remind the church in Crete that Jesus came and died for their sins. Out of love, he suffered so that they all could be made right with God. This is true for us, too. So, if we love Jesus, then we should love others. We should treat people the way Jesus has treated us.
Titus 3:4-5 When God our Savior revealed his kindness and love, he saved us, not because of the righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He washed away our sins, giving us a new birth and new life through the Holy Spirit.
So, don’t be a jerk. Remember to treat your friends like an egg. Be kind and tender!
Watch and Discuss:
- Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
- Make a list of things you need to handle with care or else they might break (i.e. a baby, eggs, jewelry, dishes, etc.)
- What does it mean to be kind? Who do you need to be kind to in your life?
- What does humble mean? What is the opposite of humility?
- What is likely to happen if we aren’t kind and humble to our friends?
- How has God been kind to you?
- Read Ephesians 4:31-32. According to this verse, what should we get rid of in our lives? What should we do instead?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.