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This topic is adapted from the chaseGodtv YouTube channel.

[Related: The Path of Addiction]

Video Highlights

  • Like many people–both Christians and non-Christians–Joe once struggled with a pornography addiction. But by the grace of God, he was delivered from his addiction. Jesus said in John 8:36, “So if the Son sets you free, you are truly free.”  Paul wrote in Romans 6:18, “Now you are free from your slavery to sin, and you have become slaves to righteous living.
  • Pornography as we know it today is not directly addressed in the Bible. The ancient world did not have the internet, texting, or pornographic magazines. This does not mean that the Bible does not provide guidelines for understanding what is going on in today with pornography. Jesus was clear in Matthew 5:27-30 that lust itself–which comes from the heart–is the primary motivator of sinful behavior.
  • Pornography is not real. With continued viewing, it will blur the line between reality and fantasy for the viewer and will ultimately corrupt their view of sexuality as their brain becomes addicted to the fantasy of pornography.
  • Sex is not in and of itself wrong. In fact, it was instituted by God and is a foundational part of original creation. Genesis 2:21-24 says, “So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. ‘At last!’ the man exclaimed. ‘This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called “woman,” because she was taken from “man.” ’ This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” What is wrong with pornography is not that it is sexual, but that it is a corruption of God’s plan for human sexuality that circumvents intimacy and spiritual connection and goes straight toward selfish physical satisfaction.
  • The longer you are addicted to porn, the more addicted to porn you will become. While simple nudity may entice and satisfy you when you first begin using pornography, you will soon need to be enticed and satisfied by increasingly graphic, violent, and varied pornographic materials as your desire for sexual satisfaction becomes tied more and more to pornographic fantasies. This same principle applies to drug and alcohol abuse. The more addicted drug and alcohol addicts become, the more substances they must abuse to attain the desired highs and lows the substances cause.
  • Porn corrupts our view of the sex to which we are attracted. We cease viewing others as sons and daughters of our holy God. They become sexual objects who exist primarily to satisfy our sexual desires. In Genesis 2:18, God created Eve to be a helper of Adam, not a sexual slave. The Hebrew word for “helper” is even applied to God sometimes (Exodus 18:4), so we know it is not referring to someone who is to be used by the other!
  • Freedom from pornography does not come from slapping ourselves on the wrist or obsessing over the guilt we feel by using it. Wallowing in guilt only leads to more guilt. Freedom comes by committing to a greater belief in, understanding of, and love for the Gospel of Jesus Christ. We must confess our sin to one another and be accountable to one another (James 5:16).

[Related: How to Abstain from Pornography]

[Related: Pornography Addiction in Marriage]

[Related: The Christian Key to Escaping Porn]

Written content for this topic by Daniel Martin.

Discussion Questions:

  1. Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
  2. What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
  3. Joe says, “It seems like people will talk about all their sins except for the porn sin.” Why do you think people don’t want to talk about their struggles with pornography and other sexual sins?
  4. Joe says, “The servanthood of Christ should come into play in marital sex.” In what ways is this principle relevant?
  5. Joe says, “You cannot appease lust by feeding into it. They only way to kill it is to starve it to death.” Read James 1:13-15. Explain why Joe is correct.
  6. In what ways does pornography and softcore sexual imagery affect your view of those to whom you are attracted?
  7. On a scale of one to ten, how bad is your porn addiction ? How would you have rated it a year ago? How do you hope it rates in a year?
  8. Read Proverbs 27:20. Have you noticed that what used to satisfy you in porn when you first started doesn’t do it for you now? Explain.
  9. How has porn blurred the line between reality and fantasy for you?
  10. Read Matthew 5:28. Do you agree that our external behaviors are merely products of what is already in our hearts? Why or why not?
  11. Joe says, “If you’re always asking ‘Can I do this or that?’ you’re really seeing Christianity as a set of rules.” Explain why you agree or disagree with this statement.
  12. “Freedom is going to come from a greater belief, a greater understanding, and a greater love for Christ.” Do you agree?
  13. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.

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