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Sex is a gift from God and it needs to be nurtured and cared for in your marriage.

Key Points:

  • Couples should be aware of any sexual trauma that a spouse is carrying into the relationship
  • Sex is God’s gift to a married couple and should be enjoyed as a gift
  • If a spouse sees sex as unappetizing, that spouse should work to find healing and achieve intamacy 
  • There is 1 biblical reason – 1 Corinthians 7:5 – to withold sex from each other for a limited season
  • If sex is not optional due to an injury, physical or emotional, remember that marriage focuses on serving the other spouse 

Quote This:

1 Corinthians 7:5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

See Also: Marriage, Sexuality

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Are you currently in a sexless relationship? If so, have you and your spouse discussed the reasons why sex is unwanted?
  3. Have you had seasons in your marriage when you had a more active sex life? Explain.
  4. Read 1 Corinthians 7:3-4. This command doesn’t give a spouse the right to abuse or demand of the other spouse. What do you think this passage means? How does this scripture describe the serving relationship of an intimate marriage?
  5. Does your sexlessness fall within the guidelines that Paul gives in the above passage?
  6. What active steps are you taking to achieve full intimacy with your spouse?
  7. Read Ephesians 5:21-33. What is the ultimate reason for marriage? Can this reason be fulfilled if sexual intimacy is impossible for one or both spouses?
  8. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.