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Sex is a gift from God and it needs to be nurtured and cared for in your marriage.
Key Points:
- Couples should be aware of any sexual trauma that a spouse is carrying into the relationship.
- Sex is God’s gift to a married couple and should be enjoyed as a gift
- If a spouse sees sex as unappetizing, that spouse should work to find healing and achieve intimacy.
- There is 1 biblical reason – 1 Corinthians 7:5 – to withhold sex from each other for a limited season and it’s about spending time in prayer.
- Sex shouldn’t be optional in marriage. If one spouse has a tough history with sex due to injury or abuse, take the time to get help and to work through it as a couple. Serve one another and do what it takes to make sex a healthy part of your marriage.
Quote This:
1 Corinthians 7:5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
Talk About It
- What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Are you currently in a sexless relationship? If so, have you and your spouse discussed the reasons why sex is unwanted?
- Have you had seasons in your marriage when you had a more active sex life? Explain.
- Read 1 Corinthians 7:3-4. This command doesn’t give a spouse the right to abuse or demand of the other spouse. What do you think this passage means? How does this scripture describe the serving relationship of an intimate marriage?
- Does your sexlessness fall within the guidelines that Paul gives in the above passage?
- What active steps are you taking to achieve full intimacy with your spouse?
- Read Ephesians 5:21-33. What is the ultimate reason for marriage? Can this reason be fulfilled if sexual intimacy is impossible for one or both spouses?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
