The Apostle Paul warns against believers being “unequally yoked” with unbelievers. The text is often applied to dating relationships today.
2 Corinthians 6:14 (ESV) Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
Christians can get lonely and desperate, lowering their standards and connecting with sketchy believers or even non-believers – thinking they can change them. But we are not called to be missionaries on the dating field.
Ephesians 5:7-8 Therefore do not become partners with them; for at one time you were darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light.
Have there been cases where a Christian dated a non-Christian and led him or her to Christ? Yes! Is that the norm? No! Is it encouraged in scripture? No!
1 Corinthians 15:33 Don’t be fooled by those who say such things, for “bad company corrupts good character.”
If you’re a Christian who wants to honor God but dates a non-Christian, don’t be surprised if their view rub off on you faster than yours rubs off on them.
James 4:4-5 You adulterers! Don’t you realize that friendship with the world makes you an enemy of God? I say it again: If you want to be a friend of the world, you make yourself an enemy of God. Do you think the Scriptures have no meaning? They say that God is passionate that the spirit he has placed within us should be faithful to him.
As Christians, we see marriage as a drama living out the reality of Christ being united with the church. A non-believer doesn’t view it this way, or at least doesn’t have the same level of conviction. You two will be on completely different playing fields.
Dating a non-believer shows our impatience and lack of trust in Jesus. The more time you spend dating wrong, the longer it’ll take to get it right.
Discussion Questions:Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
- What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
- Have you ever dated a non-believer? How did you justify it?
- Read the verses above. Which one is the most convicting to you, and why?
- What would you say to a friend who is dating a non-believer?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.