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No man is above serving his wife like Christ served the church.

Key Points:

  • Men must be willing to do chores that are “traditionally female” in order to serve their wives.
  • We need to pay attention to where we get our ideas of what is masculine and feminine. A real man isn’t gruff and uninterested in helping around the house.
  • Jesus was a servant and did things like wash dirty feet in order to serve others. Men who follow Jesus should be servants, too.

Quote This:

A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects. -Robert Heinlein

Ephesians 5:25-30 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself.  No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of his body.

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Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Do you agree with the Robert Heinlein quote from the beginning of this article? How does this quote challenge or inspire you? Explain.
  3. What are some things you’ve done in your marriage that would have been considered the “wife’s duty” in the past? What are some things your wife has done that would have been considered a “husband’s duty?”
  4. What is masculinity? Where do we get our ideas about masculinity and femininity?
  5. Jesus was a servant-leader (John 13). What are some practical steps you can take to be a better servant-leader at home?
  6. Read Ephesians 5:25-33. What are some ways you can apply the principles of this passage to your marriage and family relationships?
  7. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.