This is lesson 1 of 5 in the Search for Significance series.
If we want to discover the things that hold us back from living a joyful life, we need to take the time to identify what’s going on internally. We need to search our thoughts and emotions to see what’s getting in the way of understanding our true worth and value.
Self Worth Is Our Deep Need to Be Loved and Accepted
This can be a dangerous pursuit. If we don’t find our worth in the right place, we will seek it from unhealthy places. We might become a workaholic to prove our value to others. We might overspend on trying to look and dress a certain way to get attention from the people we deem important and influential. Or, we might seek value in a relationship and be willing to stick with it even if it’s toxic it to us.
But God wants us to see self worth from a different angle. In God’s economy, we come to him with nothing. We’re bankrupt and poor. But God pours worth and value into us. He takes his riches and gives them to us. Our worth, then, is a gift from God. It has nothing to with our looks or talents. It’s all about God and what he’s done for us.
Titus 3:4-5 When God our Savior revealed his kindness and love, he saved us, not because of the righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He washed away our sins, giving us a new birth and new life through the Holy Spirit.
God wants us to find our value and significance in him. He wants to free us from the lies we believe about ourselves that rob us of living a life of joyful significance.
We need to turn on the light
In order to experience this freedom and new life in Christ, we need to take an honest assessment of ourselves. Instead of letting faulty thinking hold us captive in the dark, we need to turn on the light and expose it all to figure out what is true and what is false about who we are what we’re worth. We need to ask God to give us insight into ourselves and into the truth of his word. We need a few trusted people who can help us discover the truth about ourselves, too.
Psalm 139:23-24 Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life.
Don’t be afraid of what you find on your journey of discovery. Though there may be pain in your self exploration, healing will only be as deep as your awareness allows. The enemy wants nothing more than to hold us back and keep us captive to lies. He will try to convince us that our worth is in our abilities and talents. He will make us doubt our value when we fail. He will try to get us to believe that our worth is based on our performance plus the opinions of others. Don’t listen to it. Let God expose the lies you’ve believed and let his truth heal you and set you free.
- Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
- What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
- Describe yourself. What are some of your accomplishments?
- How do you define success? How do you handle failure?
- On a scale from 1-10, how much do you struggle with self worth. (1 being never and 10 being always). Explain the number you gave yourself.
- What experiences have shaped how you view yourself, both positively and negatively.
- Read Titus 3:4-5. What does this passage seem to be saying about our worth?
- Read Psalm 139:23-24. Why is taking a self assessment important in your journey to understanding your true worth? What are some thoughts we might have that would be offensive to God?
- What excites you about taking the journey of discovering your true significance? What scares you about it?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.