Addictions have become commonplace and are often even accepted in modern society. Pornography can be considered just a normal part of every man’s life. Drinking, smoking, and even drug use are accepted as recreational in many circles. While public acceptance is at an all-time high, no one talks about the downward spiral of addiction. The highs are high but the lows are swept under the rug. Have you put yourself in a position where you are addicted to something?
Does a substance or behavior have a firm grip on you? Don’t lose hope. Addiction isn’t the end but a fork in the road.
Trying to Fill the Void
Why are addictions so powerful? Everyone has some type of void to fill. The fatherless have a hole where a dad should have been. The lonely and hurting have gaps where a loved one used to be or where they wished a future spouse would fit. Unfortunately, addictions often end up filling the voids. It can be much easier to drink too much on the weekend instead of dealing with lifes stress in healthy ways.
Drugs can become an escape for someone who is unable to process the difficulties in their life. Everyone is struggling with something and has some type of void inside themselves. The difference between healthy people and unhealthy people is what they fill that void with.
Admitting You Have a Problem
One of the hardest things for someone struggling with addiction to do is admit they aren’t in control. Most people know on some level that they aren’t doing the right thing but they think that they have it under control. “I can drink every once in awhile.” “It’s just to relieve stress.” “I don’t NEED it I just ENJOY it.” Have you ever heard or said any of these lines? Many people have, but many people have also beat addictions. To truly change an ingrained habit or behavior, one must be willing to do anything to get better. Becoming healthy must be the number one priority.
Many people believe that surrender means defeat, but nothing could be further from the truth. In addition to replacing bad habits with good habits, surrendering to God is a crucial step toward recovery. Addicts typically only have two options: keep going down the path they are on, or give in to something greater than themselves. This road toward “something greater” leads to Jesus.
The subject of addiction is a heavy one and not easy to talk about. No one wants to admit they can’t do something on their own. People don’t want to reach out for help when they can’t see a way to beat what they are going through. Try being a light to someone who is struggling, or even take that hand if you are the one reaching out for help. Help is out there in the form of professional counseling, family and friends, Christian mentors, and church small groups. Surrender doesn’t mean giving up or giving in. It means moving in a new direction lead by Jesus.
- Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
- What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
- What are some common addictions that people suffer? Why do people often get addicted to these things?
- What are some addictions that may be “taboo” to talk about? Why do you think these things are “taboo?”
- How can having an addiction affect the lives of family, friends, co-workers, and others? Explain.
- If you struggle with an addiction, what keeps you from surrendering? Or what do you think would keep someone from surrendering?
- Why is it hard to admit when we are wrong?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.