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Should you fight in front of your kids? It depends on if you fight in constructive ways or in unhealthy ways. Bryan and Tracy spend some time contrasting the difference between productive and unproductive communication.
- It’s unhealthy to fight in front of your kids if you’re only yelling and screaming. Or, if you’re calling each other’s names. It’s also bad to model storming off and refusing to talk about the issues.
- Your kids will observe how you fight and will end up doing the same things when they get married.
- It’s important to understand that the goal isn’t to have conflict. The goal is to do it right. If you never fight in your marriage, that may be a sign that you’re not very invested in the relationship.
- Healthy fighting means you have a conversation. You can state your opinions in a calm fashion. Listen and be respectful. You can disagree and still love each other.
- Once you have the conversation, you move toward solutions. It s great for your kids to observe that there is growth and change from the conversation.
It’s good for kids to see parents communicate and work to resolve things. It’s good for kids to see parents be teachable and humble. Obviously, you have to be sensitive toward the content of the conversation and if it’s appropriate to talk about that particular subject in front of the kids. But, don’t think you can’t ever disagree in front of the kids.