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This topic is adapted from the PursueGOD Men YouTube channel and from Point Man by Steve Farrar. This is part 1 of 6 in the Point Man series.

God has created men to be spiritual leaders in the home, yet so many men fail to do the job. Here are three main strategies that Satan uses to take down men and the entire family with them.

Strategy #1: To Sever a Husband’s Relationship with His Wife

The most important relationship in the home is the man’s relationship with his wife. Some men look past their wives to their jobs, kids, or sports. But God calls men to love their wives like Christ loves the church.

Ephesians 5:25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her…

[Related: How to Be a Better Husband]

Strategy #2: To Sever a Father’s Relationship with His Kids

In our culture, men are conspicuously absent from the home. Men need to spend intentional time with their kids, transferring values to them through intentional mentoring. If men don’t lead spiritually, it won’t happen like God wants.

[Related: Men, Lead Your Family]

Strategy #3: To Sever a Man’s Relationship with Jesus

If men don’t get their relationship with God right, there will be nothing left to spill over into their relationships with wife and kids. That’s why mentoring and men’s groups are so important. Develop the habits of praying, reading scripture, and mentoring others to strengthen your connection with God.

Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.

It’s not too late for men to step up and start taking the lead. Make a fresh commitment to connect with God, your kids, and your wife – and neutralize the strategy of the enemy to tear you down and take you away from your home.

[Related Resource: Bible Reading Plan]

Discussion Questions:

  1. Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
  2. What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
  3. How connected was your dad to your mom? To his kids? To God? What effect did it have on the family or his leadership of it?
  4. Read Ephesians 5:25. What are some ways in which your relationship with your wife has weakened in the past few years? How did it happen? What can you do about it?
  5. How often do you (or did you) talk to your kids about meaningful things? What are some topics you wish you could cover? What makes it difficult to have such meaningful conversations?
  6. “If men don’t lead spiritually, it won’t happen.” Do you agree or disagree? Explain.
  7. On a scale of 1-10, rate your prayer life. What about your time with God in the Bible? How do you think better habits in these areas might change your leadership at home?
  8. Have you ever considered mentoring someone else (besides your kids)? Who could you mentor? What topics would you cover? How would that experience shape your own spiritual growth?
  9. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.

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