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This is lesson 4 of 6 in the 5 Love Languages series for couples.

The book The Five Love Languages gives us a very practical guide for understanding how to love. The ultimate goal is to love your spouse in their love language. In this video, we’re introducing the third one which is called Giving Gifts.

Video Highlights:

  • A person with this love language loves gift giving. So, they are especially excited for Christmas, birthdays and other special occasions where they can give thoughtful gifts to the people they love.
  • They key isn’t the amount of money you spend, the key is giving a thoughtful gift.
  • If this is your spouse’s language, ask them to help you set the right expectations and parameters. Don’t assume that your spouse wants you to bust the budget they just want to know you’ve put thought into the gifts you buy,
  • If this is your language, you’ll have to be gracious toward your loved ones who may not show the level of appreciation for your thoughtfulness as you would like.
  • Don’t forget the main point behind the love languages. Learn to speak the language of your spouse and find value in what they care about. If gift giving is their language, then get really good at buying thoughtful things for your spouse that shows you love and care for them.

[Related: How to Be a Better Husband]

[Related: Living Out God’s Design for Complementarity in Marriage]

Discussion Questions:

  1. Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
  2. What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
  3. What’s the best gift you’ve ever received? Why did it mean so much to you?
  4. What would you say you enjoy more, giving gifts or receiving them? Explain.
  5. On a scale from 1-10, rate how good you are at buying gifts for your spouse. Explain. How could you improve?
  6. In your opinion, what makes for a good gift? How do you think your spouse would answer this question?
  7. What are some creative gift ideas that don’t cost a lot of money?
  8. What are some other questions you can ask your spouse to get a sense for the kinds of gifts they would like?
  9. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.

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