Everyone has a primary way that they show and receive love. For a better marriage, start speaking your spouse's language, even if it isn't natural for you.
Talking Points:
- Words of affirmation: If this is your language, you want to hear the specifics of why you matter to your spouse.
- Physical touch: If this is your language, you want receive affection through hugs, hand-holding, and more.
- Acts of service: If this is your language, action speaks louder than words.
- Gift giving: If this is your language, you like material surprises, big and small.
- Quality time: If this is your language, just being present with your spouse is what matters to you.
Discussion Questions:
- Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
- Share a time you planned something special for your spouse and it totally failed. What went wrong? What did your spouse express to you about it?
- Describe the times you feel most loved by your spouse? What might that indicate about your love language?
- Read Ephesians 5:25-30. What kind of love did Christ model for us? Why is real love rooted in sacrifice and service to another?
- Why won’t it work to love your spouse in your language, not theirs?
- If you don’t know your love language, do that now. (Visit 5lovelanguages.com to take a quick love language survey.) Were you surprised to find out what your languages were? Explain.
- What are some practical things you can do to start speaking the language of your spouse? Make a list. Do you think it will be challenging for you to do this? Explain.
- How will understanding the love languages improve your marriage? Go through the complete series here.
- Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?
Based on the book by Gary Chapman called The Five Love Languages
