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This is part 1 in the After the Affair series.
There is hope after an affair. Your marriage can be saved and can even be stronger and healthier if you have two crucial ingredients:
#1 A Forgiving Heart from the One Who Was Offended
The greatest predictor of success for saving your marriage is the ability of the “offended” party to forgive. The only way to move forward in your marriage is if forgiveness leads the way. Otherwise, you’ll be stuck and unable to start the healing process.
#2 A Humble Heart from the “Offender”
It doesn’t matter the reasons or justifications, the “offender” has to own their poor choices and acknowledge the pain they’ve inflicted on their spouse and family.
Colossians 3:12-13 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
The first part of the verse speaks to the attitude the offender needs to have. You’ll have to endure hard questions and be patient with your spouse as they catch up with where you’ve been in your dissatisfaction with the marriage and the allure of someone else. The offended spouse needs to give the gift of forgiveness.
If these two ingredients are at work in your marriage, there is hope for you.