Watch the video above and talk about it with a group or mentor. Learn more

This is part 1 of the Parenting Teens series.

Learn how our resources at pursueGOD.org can help you talk to your teen in a meaningful way.

Parenting teens brings with it a whole set of challenges. When your kids are younger, it’s easier to control their environment. But when the teen years come around, kids begin exploring their personal identity. They typically aren’t at home as much, and you can’t be there 24/7 to control their environment.

Empowering Conversations

Parents, it’s time to be brave. Even if your teen acts like they don’t want to talk, they do. The resources at pursueGOD.org are designed to help you have meaningful conversations about important topics with your kids.

It works like this: you watch a short video (or read the article at the PG topic) to set the stage for a conversation, then use the discussion questions at the bottom of the topic page to have a meaningful conversation.

Commit to Conversation

It’s not always easy to start conversations with your kids, but commit to doing it anyway. Set a time once or twice a week to have a family conversation using a PG topic and stick with it. It may be tough at first, but over time your kids will see the value of talking about things together as a family. Your kids will eventually open up. They want to talk, but if that dynamic isn’t a part of your home life, there will be a learning curve. Don’t give up.

[Related: Schedule It if You Want a Conversational Culture at Home]

The Principle of Discovery

The principle of discovery is not about lecturing your kids and telling them what to think, it’s about helping them discover truth themselves. You provide an opportunity for them to discover what is true and how to apply it. Help them to see for themselves why your values are important. Don’t spend your whole life saying “because I said so” and “do what I say, not what I do.”

The Principle of Ownership

Ownership is about taking responsibility and accountability for what we learn. A day will come when your kids leave home, and if they don’t have any ownership over their beliefs, those beliefs will crumble the moment they don’t have you looking over their shoulder to ensure they’re obeying. Ownership is about investing in your own ideas and about being equipped to think critically and to take responsibility.

[Related Series: Family 101]

As your kids age, they need to own more and more of their choices, thoughts, and beliefs. The regular discipline of family conversations using the resources at pursueGOD.org can help.

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. What are some unique challenges of parenting your teens?
  3. Do you feel comfortable talking with your kids about important issues and having conversations with them? Explain.
  4. Do you think your kids feel comfortable conversing with you? Explain.
  5. What will be some unique hurdles for your family to get a conversational culture started? What are some steps you can take to overcome those hurdles?
  6. Explain the principle of discovery and how it might apply to your family.
  7. Explain the principle of ownership and how it might apply to your family.
  8. What are some important topics you want to talk to your kids about but haven’t?
  9. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.
Written content for this topic by Daniel Martin.