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This topic is adapted from the FLEXTALK YouTube channel.

Bryan and Tracy about the dangers of pornography. Our culture will tell us that it’s a normal part of anyone’s life. But the truth is, left unchecked, it will destroy your marriage.

[Related: Pornography Addiction and Marriage]

Video Highlights:

  • The first way porn destroys a marriage is that porn makes sex a one person thing. It becomes all about how to gratify yourself and not at all about thinking how your spouse should be a part of that gratification. Your spouse is just a tool you use to gratify yourself. Pornography orients its users toward selfishness.
  • The second reason is that porn breaks marital intimacy. Sex is meant to be the most intimate thing you share with someone. After all, you are literally sharing all of yourself with someone! Sex should be a two-person thing where two people gratify one another. Porn removes the bonding aspect sex is designed to have.
  • The last reason is that porn damages your spouse’s self-worth. In the back of their mind, they’re thinking about how they don’t measure up to the people you’d rather look up online. It’s unsettling to think that a spouse isn’t thinking about them during sex but some other fantasy.

[Related: Why Abstain From Pornography?]

Porn is not an innocent pursuit. It will destroy your marriage if you don’t eradicate it from your life. Pornography is an epidemic and if you know that you struggle in this area, find help. Don’t let it rob you of having a healthy relationship with your spouse.

1 Corinthians 6:15-20 Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.”[a] But the person who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him. Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.

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Discussion Questions:

  1. Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
  2. What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
  3. How do you see pornography being marketed in our culture? Why do you think it makes so much money?
  4. How have you viewed the issue of pornography up to this point? What informed this view?
  5. What is your experience with porn? What effects has that exposure had in your life?
  6. If you or your spouse have struggled with porn in the past, how has the affected your relationship up to now?
  7. Of the three reasons mentioned in the video, which one resonates most with you? Explain.
  8. In your own words, why is porn damaging to a marriage? What will/can you do to protect your marriage from being destroyed by porn?
  9. Read 1 Corinthians 6:15-20. Identify all that this passage says about sex. How does knowing that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit affect the way you view yourself and your sexual desires?
  10. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.

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