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When people hurt us, it's easy to hold a grudge. But this only does us harm. Instead of wasting energy on the hurt, we should focus on how to move forward.

Key Points:

  • Fixing the other person will not work. 
  • Focus on yourself and settling underlying issues that may be leading to the grudge.
  • Trust in the purposes of God. He has eternal purposes that allow difficult situations to take place.

Quote This:

Lord, we ask, holy spirit, that you help us when we find ourselves in these times and seasons of offenses. That we will not fall prey…to offense, but that we will rise up in the spirit to be able to fulfill your calling and destiny for our lives.

See Also: Conflict, ForgivenessRelationships

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. Of the three key points, which is the most difficult part of overcoming a grudge for you? 
  3. Read Genesis 37:1-26. Describe the causes and depth of the grudge between Joseph and his brothers.
  4. Read Genesis 45:7-8. How do these verses show Joseph’s trust in God’s purposes? 
  5. Describe a situation involving a grudge you have. What are some underlying issues that hinder overcoming it?
  6. What kinds of larger purposes do you think God may have for your grudge or situation? 
  7. Read Colossians 3:1-4. How could these verses inform the process of overcoming a grudge? 
  8. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.