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Anyone who has experienced a miscarriage or infant death knows the pain and grief of such a loss. But can we take comfort in the idea that those children are in heaven? Pastor Todd attempts to answer this very heavy question about what happens when babies die. His answers are framed in two ways- pastorally and theologically.

Video Highlights:

  • It’s important to start from the position that Jesus is good and he knows how to bring about good. (Matthew 7:7-10) Pastorally, it would be hard to imagine that a child who has never drawn breath outside of the womb or come to an age of understanding of who God is out of the reach of God’s grace.
  • Throughout the Psalms, it talks about who God is-that he is good and that he is faithful and compassionate (Psalm 136:1, Psalm 145:8-9). So God can’t be unjust or unfair no matter the situation.
  • Theologically, Pastor Todd believes in unconditional election- that at the beginning of time, he wanted all people to be in relationship with him but sin got in the way for all people. We all are born with sin. (Psalm 51:5).
  • Another theological consideration is if there is an age of accountability. Some believe that the Bah Mitzvah at the age of 13 might be the mark. Or, it could be the age a person can be sent to war. The truth is, it isn’t clear in Scripture and that may be for a reason. (Deuteronomy 29:29)
  • Some people look to David’s words in 2 Samuel 12:22-23 as a promise that we will see lost babies again. Pastor Todd cautions against using that as a hard and fast rule but he does believe that God is good and so all he does is good and right.

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Discussion Questions:

  1. Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
  2. What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
  3. Do you believe that God is good? Explain what that means to you.
  4. Do you believe there is an “age of accountability”? Why or why not?
  5. “Do babies go to heaven?” How would you answer a friend who asks this question in their grief?
  6. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.

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