Watch the video above and talk about it with a group or mentor. Learn more.

If you have a deep need for affirmation, it might just be how you're wired. But it can also be a stumbling block if you're not careful.

Key Points:

  • Some people have a deep need for affirmation. This can become unhealthy if it isn’t kept in check.
  • Assess your need. Needing affirmation is not a weakness, but it is important to understand for yourself where it comes from so that it doesn’t become a controlling influence.
  • Ask for affirmation. Chances are, the people in your world are not mind-readers. They might not know you need affirmation, and it might not even be on their radar.
  • Learn to find affirmation from God. Make a habit of reading the Bible and receiving what it says about you. This is the most powerful affirmation you can experience.
  • Be affirming. As you put yourself in the place of affirming others, not only are you building other people up, but you will find that it builds you up as well.

Quote This:

Philippians 4:13 For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.

See Also: Emotions

Talk About It
  1. What is your initial reaction to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. On a scale of 1 to 10, how important is affirmation to you? Is there another love language that is higher on the list?
  3. Why do you need affirmation? Who do you most need it from? When did it start, what was it always like this?
  4. What is the most affirming thing someone has said to you in the last year? How did you respond to it?
  5. What are some other scripture verses that affirm the believer? Make a list.
  6. How good are you at affirming others? How can you improve in this area?
  7. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.