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This topic is adapted from the LoveHappy YouTube channel.

When we see our children struggle with an issue or life challenge, the temptation is to frantically search for a solution. Once a solution is found, the next desire is to fix our child or fix the situation. The problem with this approach is that we don’t let our children face the challenge themselves. Our better choice is to model how God parents us.

[Related: Parenting On Purpose]

There Is Rarely a Clear-Cut Action

When searching for advice or direction, either on the internet or through family and friends, we will find a variety of responses. There is not one clear-cut direction that every person or resource will suggest. These options can lead to further confusion and frustration about the best action as a parent searching for the ‘perfect’ solution.

Get God’s Advice

Rather than simply seeking out the wisdom of the world, as a Christian, we should be seeking God’s advice. As our creator, God knows what is best for each one of us, including our child. In prayer, lay out your heart’s concerns for your child. Ask God how he would want you to best parent your child in this situation.

God’s Model of Parenting

We can look to God in our lives and see how he parents us daily. First, God is always present. Your child needs to know you will always be there if they need you. Be available for them to talk with you. Be eager to listen to them.

Secondly, don’t try to fix your child. God doesn’t rush into your life to fix you but rather he continues to love you through your challenges and difficulties. Do the same for your child.

Lastly, be patient, continually offering love. You want to support your child as God supports you, with never-ending love and constant patience. These trials and challenges will help mold your child into the person God meant for them to be.

Written content on this topic by David Bassett.

Discussion Questions:

  1. Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
  2. What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
  3. Discuss a time that you felt compelled to fix your child. Share the outcome of your attempt to fix your child.
  4. Read Proverbs 22:6 and discuss ways God has raised you and how you can reflect those ways for your children.
  5. What are some of the ways you can, or already have, exercised patience with your child?
  6. What’s one practical way you can be present for your child? Why is this important for your child particularly?
  7. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.

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