The world tells us that sex is for anywhere, anytime. But the Bible teaches that sex is designed exclusively for the marriage bed. Here are 5 reasons to wait until marriage for sex:
Reason #1: God says so
If you’re a serious pursuer of God, this should really be the only reason you need. As Christians, we live to honor God with every area of our lives. It honors God to save sex for marriage. Period.
Reason #2: Sex is sacred
Sex is not like any other activity, because it’s an act of “oneness” between a husband and wife. Our bodies are temples, and giving them away to just anyone dishonors our bodies and our God.
1 Corinthians 6:16,18-20 And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.” Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.
Reason #3: It’s worth the wait
Sex between a husband and wife, within the bounds of a committed marriage, is wonderful. A few difficult years of deferred pleasure will pay off in the long run.
Reason #4: It builds trust
Proving before you get married that you have self-control over your body is an indicator that you’ll have self-control after you get married. You’ll be tempted someday in your marriage to step out on your spouse – and both you and your spouse will want to know that you can handle it.
Reason #5: It honors your future spouse
Making the commitment to wait for marriage is a courageous and honorable act for your future spouse, whomever that might be.
Don’t buy into the world’s view of sex and sexuality. Make a commitment to wait until marriage for sex – or if you’ve already crossed that line, make a fresh commitment to sexual purity moving forward.
- Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
- What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
- Which reason stands out to you from the list above? What other reasons would you add to the list?
- Read 1 Corinthians 6:16-20. What does it mean that sex is “sacred”? Give some examples of how the world today teaches the opposite message.
- Are you willing to make a commitment to sexual purity? What are some boundaries you can set up in your life to make it happen?
- What are you taking away from this conversation?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.