Dating in this day and age can be challenging, especially if you’re trying to honor God in your life. What does the Bible say about it? What does God want for you? Before you say “yes” to another date, ask these four questions:

  1. What is my motivation? Why do you want to date this person, really?
  2. What are my standards? Develop a criteria for who you date. Establish the values that are important to you.
  3. What does the Bible say? What does the Bible speaks to generally? (2 Corinthians 6:14-15) What does it speak to specifically for your life? (Ephesians 4:17-23)
  4. What are the risks and rewards for dating this person? If you’re going to move forward anyway, you should at least think through the consequences.

2 Corinthians 6:14-15 Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? What harmony can there be between Christ and the devil? How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever?

Ephesians 4:17-20 With the Lord’s authority I say this: Live no longer as the Gentiles do, for they are hopelessly confused.Their minds are full of darkness; they wander far from the life God gives because they have closed their minds and hardened their hearts against him.They have no sense of shame. They live for lustful pleasure and eagerly practice every kind of impurity.20But that isn’t what you learned about Christ.

Discussion Questions:

  1. Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
  2. What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
  3. How do you usually determine who you say “yes” to for a date? Do you find yourself regretting your choices more often than not?
  4. What is the draw to dating people unlike you? List possible risks to dating an unbeliever.
  5. Create a wishlist for “the one”. Are any of those traits negotiable? Do you have experience dating someone who didn’t share your values? What effects did this have on the relationship?
  6. Read Ephesians 4:17-19. Make a list of the traits Paul uses to describe an unbeliever (“Gentile”). Does this list represent the traits you are looking for in a spouse? How will you apply this information moving forward?
  7. Write a personal action step based on this conversation.

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