If you struggle with unforgiveness in your life, try asking these three simple questions:
Question #1: What is your motivation for not forgiving?
Maybe the reason you’re unwilling to forgive is because you are only thinking about yourself. That’s a selfish, self-centered attitude.
Question #2: Do you really understand grace?
Grace means “gift”. If you’re waiting for someone to be worthy of your forgiveness, you’re thinking about it wrong. Gifts aren’t free. Someone has to pay. Are you willing to absorb some of the cost of that relational offense?
Colossians 3:13 Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.
Question #3: Is your sin really different?
If you only put yourself in the place of a victim, you’ll only ever know half of the story. Remember that you are also a sinner. When Jesus said, “Father forgive them…” from the cross, don’t you realize that Jesus was talking about all of us?
- Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
- What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
- If you can, share about a time when someone hurt you with their words or actions. Did it make you angry? On a scale of 1-10, how hard was it to forgive that person? Explain.
- Think about someone who hurt you. Do you think that person is at peace with what they’ve done? Explain.
- Read Matthew 18:21-22. “You have the right to be healed.” Do you agree? Do you need the offender to ask for forgiveness before you can heal? Why or why not?
- Do you think you will hurt other people if you remain bitter and refuse to forgive? Explain.
- Read Colossians 3:13. Do you think forgiveness can set you free? What will it take to get there?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.