If you are ready to use the tools and resources on pursueGOD then you need to consider who to mentor. There are 3 lists to classify people and the mentoring relationships you have with them. Consider which list the people in your life would fit into.
- List #1 is your hit list. This list is the people that you would be willing to mentor. These people would be receptive in a mentoring relationship.
- List #2 is your active list. These are the people you have initiated a mentoring relationship with. They understand what mentoring is and how to use the FLEX method. You are meeting with them regularly to discuss topics on pursueGOD.
- List #3 is your passive list. This is the list of people who have reached the end of an active mentoring relationship. The hope is that by the time they reach this list they are already mentoring others. When they are on this list you are still passively mentoring them, meaning you meet less regularly but you still touch base with them.
It is helpful to compare mentoring relationships to parenting. You actively parent your child until they are 18 and then you let them go out into the world and you passively parent them. You don’t completely remove yourself from their life, but you check up on them less often and let them do things on their own. This is a great way to think about how these three mentoring lists work.
- Watch the video together or invite someone to summarize the topic.
- What is your initial reaction to this video? Do you disagree with any of it? What jumped out at you?
- Write out your three people lists. Talk about it. Get ready to take action on it.
- How many people can a mentor have on his “active” list? Explain.
- How long is it healthy to have someone on your active list? Explain.
- How do these three lists relate to small group ministry in the church? If you’re the small group leader, should your entire small group be on your personal “active” mentoring list? Explain.
- When it comes to actually mentoring, how important is scheduling a weekly time?
- Write a personal action step based on this conversation.